Zestra Helps You Get Over the Hump: Week 7

Posted 8:30 am, December 21st, 2011

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Let the countdown begin! Hopefully, for those of you still slaving away at the mine, this Hump Day post will provide a quick laugh en route to the holiday weekend.

But first, a few Hanukah/Christmas/Kwanza/Festivus tips:
1. Try to look grateful when you get a used tape player from your great-uncle
2. Count to 30 before responding to your mother-in-law
3. Always choose cookies in lieu of all other food
4. Have fun!

Video of the Week:

Sexy Quotes from Sexy People

Angelina Jolie

“I think it is funny that we were freer about sexuality in the 4th century B.C. It is a little disconcerting.” –Angelina Jolie
“I like to have a Martini, two at the very most; three, I’m under the table, four I’m under my host!” –Dorothy Parker
“Sex education may be a good idea in the schools, but I don’t believe the kids should be given homework.” –Bill Cosby

Sexpert of the Week – Josey Vogels

Josey Vogels headshot

Zestra Sexpert-of-the-week Josey Vogels is as prolific as she is clever. Known as “Canada’s Carrie Bradshaw,” Ms. Vogels writes two newspaper columns, contributes to five blogs and hosts a sex and relationship series on radio. Oh, and in case that wasn’t enough, she writes books too. It makes the rest of us seem downright lazy, doesn’t it?

The youngest of eight children (her mother was quite prolific too), Ms. Vogels grew up on a dairy farm in Ontario, Canada. For the past decade, the journalism major has dispensed sex know-how and relationship advice to people throughout North America (despite her column being pulled in some more conservative markets).

According to Ms. Vogels, “The mainstream media are really uncomfortable with talking about kids having sex. It’s automatically assumed that any sexual experience will be traumatic.”

Sample topics she’s written about are “Women Have Lots of Casual Sex – Get Over It,” “Christmas Gift-Giving: the True Test of Your Relationship” and “Can Drugs Make You Love Someone You Don’t?”

This gifted writer gives sound advice while bravely discussing topics others consider taboo. We at Zestra admire her courage, honesty and fortitude.

Josey Vogels Twitter

You can follow Ms. Vogels on Twitter @joseyvogels and us

Tip of the week:

Santa Hat

Play Santa
Sure, everyone likes an iPhone or a cashmere sweater, but give your partner the real gift of intimacy this holiday. Most people, when they think of “intimacy,” think of intercourse. But sex, while enjoyable, isn’t the only way of showing your love. Back massages, erotic baths, simple touching and even playful banter can also display affection and attraction. After all, gifts mean nothing without a caring partner.

The results of last week’s Facebook poll

Question: If I was stuck on a desert island, I could do without ________.

Desert Island

Best answers:
“…The Hallmark Channel”
“…The smoke monster from Lost
“…The Republican primary”
“…My cell phone”

1.) Check out our Facebook page to vote on this week’s poll question: “If I could have sex anywhere, I would have it…”
a. In space
b. In a church
c. On The Planet of the Apes
d. On top of Brad Pitt

Results will be published next week! Happy Holidays!

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The Four Building Blocks For An Ecstatic Orgasm

Posted 9:00 am, December 19th, 2011

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Everyone it seems is looking for a way to have a better sex life, a magical orgasm or how to maintain sexual ecstasy in your life. Because let’s face it—we all should have ecstatic in our lives.

Whether it is bigger orgasms, or any orgasm, intimacy, the ease of sexual boredom or some kind of sexual cosmic connection—the hunt has been on for hundreds of years. When it come to sex, perhaps it is time to refresh our language and examine our sexuality lexicon. Let’s begin by taking apart sexual pleasure. It’s by taking it apart and learning it’s essential components that we can truly understand how it all works. Remember—sexual desire is something you can turn on and off. I often tell people that they don’t have to be in the mood for sex. Sometimes, it is just about showing up and doing it – and Zestra Arousal Oil can help with that (so keep it nearby!).

Four Building Blocks For An Ecstatic Orgasm:

1. It all starts in the mind. Come on—do you even remember that you have arms and legs during a mind blowing orgasm? Of course you don’t. Sex starts in the mind with thought. Where are you placing your attention? During love making are you thinking about making love or something else like what your boss said to you at a meeting? Just for fun, let’s compare sex and meditation. How many times does your mind drift during meditation? That is why we mediate with mantras—to keep our mind as clear from clutter as possible. It is the same thing with ecstatic sex. Keep your mind as focused as you can on receiving or giving sexual pleasure. When you mind wanders—gently bring it back—just like you would if you were meditating. And it’s fine to think about a sexual fantasy – just like you would a mantra!

Touch of love

2. Breath is essential. Once again, just like in meditation—the quality of your sexual experience could be linked to whether you are breathing enough. Sex educators love to talk about the “Quiet and Quick” rule. This is something that most of us learned as young people when we discovered that our genitals gave us pleasure. We learned to be quiet and quick in order not to be heard and not to be discovered. Unfortunately, for many people these sexual habits remain with us for the rest of our lives. If you want to have mind blowing sex, you need to breathe. If you breathe a little bit—you have smaller orgasms. If you can learn to open your lungs and breathe in a lot of oxygen—your potential of more pleasure grows.

breathe

3. Make Noise. Let’s go back to the “Quiet and Quick” rule that so many of us learned living in our parent’s house. We learned if we wanted to self pleasure (masturbate)—we needed to be quiet. No one wants our parents or siblings to walk in on us. Once again, many of us have kept that rule into our adult lives. We don’t want to be heard. Maybe it is no longer parents that we are concerned about—perhaps now it is children or neighbors. So keep a soft pillow near by and make noise into that if you are worried about bringing the house down. But open up that throat if you want to increase your sexual pleasure. Making noise and breathing are keys to heating up your sexual engine.

make noise

4. Learn to move. Shake it up! In the world of Tantra they often teach us to move like a wave or a dolphin. If you like you could stand up and practice that. But the technique is not important at all—the point is that stillness is not always your friend when you are looking for sexual bliss. Think of making love as a dance. You need to move your hips!

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So, the next time you are thinking about how to bring more essential goodness to your love making and ramp up your sexual pleasure—remember the four components: Mind, Breath, Noise and Movement. Do it your way—paint it green and dust it with sprinkles! Own it and make it yours. I bet it will be fabulous. Just remember the trick with the pillow!

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Zestra’s (You-Really-Don’t-Have-To) Fake-It-Friday

Posted 8:30 am, December 16th, 2011

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Your Brain on O

Women are prolific, efficient and effective liars…

…At least, they are when it comes to faking orgasms.

Over the past few weeks, Zestra has tweeted, posted, blogged and commented on a number of media stories related to the seemingly irrepressible habit women have of acting out the Big O instead of experiencing one.

Scientists have speculated on why women fake it. How much they fake it. When they fake it. With whom they fake it. What it means when they fake it.

The fake orgasm may be History’s tallest tale.

The thing is, though… WOMEN DON’T HAVE TO. We have the technology! We have Zestra.

Below is a sample of our favorite orgasm news. Just keep in mind that in today’s day and age, “faking it” is a choice, not a necessity.

Women's Health Screen Grab

Women’s Health IDs reasons women fake orgasms, and why it’s not good for them…

ABC News Orgasm Screen Grab

ABC News claims some women experience a “labor orgasm” during childbirth.

CNN orgasm screen grab

Study finds women who fake orgasms more likely to believe their mate will cheat.

The Daily Fix Orgasm Screen Grab

MRI shows a woman’s brain lighting up during orgasm.

Be sure to come back and visit this blog for the best in orgasm and sex information. You should also follow us on Twitter using the button below!

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Zestra Helps You Get Over the Hump: Week 6

Posted 8:30 am, December 14th, 2011

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It’s Wednesday, which means you’re half-way to the weekend! (And, the holidays are creeping closer every day, so we hope you’ve at least started on the holiday shopping…)

Below are a few items to make the next couple of days a little bit better – Katherine Heigl explains why she’s such a big fan of neutering pets, Woody Allen notes the benefit of masturbation and someone has a crush on Dame Judi Dench… Check out this week’s Hump Day post below.

Video of the Week:

Sexy Quotes from Sexy People

Billy Crystal headshot

“Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place.” –Billy Crystal
“Don’t knock masturbation – it’s sex with someone I love.” –Woody Allen
“It isn’t premarital sex if you have no intention of getting married.” –Drew Carey

Sexperts of the Week – The Kinsey Institute

Kinsey Institute Logo

The Institute for Sex Research (later known as The Kinsey Institute) was founded in 1947 by Dr. Albert Kinsey, a zoologist at Indiana University.

Kinsey and his institute quickly became famous for The Kinsey Reports on sexuality, released as Sexual Behavior in the Human Male and Sexual Behavior in the Human Female in 1948 and 1953, respectively.

Discussing such then-taboos as homo- and bi-sexuality, sadomasochism and marital sexual behavior, Kinsey’s studies incurred a great deal of skepticism and negative press. The Kinsey Report is most famous for its “Kinsey Scale,” a 0 to 6 numbered continuum that suggests sexuality isn’t an unambiguous yes / no proposition, but comprised of complex, fluid impulses and behaviors.

Though Kinsey died in 1956, his work lives on in the Institute, which remains one of the foremost authorities on human sexuality. Using its website and social media to deliver information and answer questions, the Kinsey Institute (and peripheral site Kinsey Confidential) seeks to provide people with a forum to discuss all manner of sexual topics.

Kinsey Institute Tweet

You can follow the institute on Twitter @kinseyinstitute and us

Sex tip of the week:

Visit an erotic store together

Sex shop

Maybe it’s the neon XXX, but many people feel awkward visiting an adult store. Yet, a trip to the local sex shop can considerably spice up things in the bedroom. Not only will it give you and your partner some interesting bonding time, the surroundings may jumpstart a conversation that allows each of you to confess any romantic concerns or fantasies.

The results of last week’s Facebook poll

Question: My ugly crush is_________________

Best answers:

Larry David
Larry David headshot

Steve Buscemi
Steve Buscemi headshot

Dame Judi Dench
(Who, to be fair, is just old.)
Dame Judy Dench headshot

Kathleen Turner
Kathleen Turner headshot

See all the responses here.

Check out our Facebook page to vote on this week’s poll question: “I can do without…” (And we know it’s not arousal oil!)

Best results will be published next week!

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Zestra Follow Friday: Week 2!

Posted 8:30 am, December 9th, 2011

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The work week is almost over and Zestra is here to send you smiling into the weekend.  First up we have some entertaining sex legends, followed by our Follow Friday Twitter recommendations!

5 Sex Legends:  Fact or Fiction?

Catherine the Great

Catherine the Great and her horse

It was rumored that the great Russian empress met her death while having intercourse with a horse (interhorse?).  Though a great story, this is false.  She died of natural causes in her bed.  Alone.

Wilt Chamberlain

Wilt Chamberlain and his 20K

Chamberlain claims to have slept with 20,000 women over the course of his life.  The math renders this claim dubious.  Estimating sexual activity between the ages of 16 and 63 (when he died), he would have needed to couple with more than one unique partner every day.  Seems unlikely.

Eleanor Roosevelt

Eleanor Roosevelt and Lorena Hickok

Gossip about a sexual relationship between the former First Lady and Hickok – friends since they met in 1933 – has persisted through the years.  Over 2,000 letters exist between the two of them.  No one was in the bedroom with Roosevelt and Hickok, so there is no “proof” – but phrases like “I wish I could lie down beside you tonight and take you in my arms” definitely imply a certain intimacy.

Thomas Jefferson

Thomas Jefferson and Sally Hemings

Rumors of a relationship have hung around since Jefferson’s presidency.  He never denied or confirmed them.  In 1998, however, descendants of Jefferson and Hemings were DNA tested and results indicated the participants were related, so experts agree it is probable this legend is true.

Don't Look Now

Julie Christie, Donald Sutherland and “Don’t Look Now”

Rumors persist to this day that the 70s superstars had actual intercourse during the filming of their sex scene in the 1973 film “Don’t Look Now.”  It IS a rather graphic scene, but is it real?  Answer:  Who knows?  Sutherland and Producer Peter Katz say no.  However, Peter Bart, a Paramount executive at the time (and subsequent editor of Variety), claims he clearly witnessed bonafide sex taking place.  (And talk was Christie’s then-boyfriend Warren Beatty demanded to edit the footage himself.)

Zestra Recommends…

Info you should know from people you should be following on Twitter:

Susan Vernicek

IdentityMag Tweet

“Identity is an online magazine that empowers women to Accept. Appreciate. Achieve.™ We are all individual in our thoughts, interests, beliefs and experiences. Each of us harbors our own fears, doubts, questions and insecurities. That’s why we bring you a positive and safe place to turn for information, inspiration, support, sharing, and “permission” to just be who you are.” –Susan Vernicek

SexIs Magazine

SexIsMagazine Tweet

An online magazine affiliated with female fun store Eden’s Fantasy, SexIs tweets a lot of terrific information, especially from columnists The Bloggess, Nina Hartley and Rachel White.

Liz Weinmann

theDAREforce Tweet

Liz Weinmann founded the DARE force to help women achieve success and self-actualization in their lives.  Ms. Weinmann returned to college for an MBA after age 40, fulfilling a life-long dream, and now devotes her time to helping other women achieve their goals.

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Zestra Helps You Get Over the Hump: Week 5

Posted 12:35 pm, December 7th, 2011

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Welcome to Hump Day #5 – our fifth installment of the weekly collection of sex and relationship info guaranteed to tip the work-week and send you surging into Thursday, Friday and the weekend! Below you’ll find some amazing intimacy-provoking movie recommendations, Lil’ Kim’s perspective on free time, this week’s sexpert and more…

Video of the Week:

Do you like “Ghost”? So do they…

Sexy Quotes from Sexy People

Lil Kim

“I haven’t had sex in eight months. To be honest, I now prefer to go bowling.” –Lil’ Kim
“Nope, no sex scandals yet. But I am open to offers!” – John Cusack
“I like my sex the way I play basketball, one on one with as little dribbling as possible.” –Leslie Nielsen

Sexpert of the Week – Dr. Logan Levkoff

Logan Levkoff headshot

If Dr. Logan Levkoff looks familiar, you may have caught one of her many appearances on the Joy Behar Show, Good Morning America or the Rachael Ray show. A popular sexpert, Dr. Levkoff’s openness and honesty have made her a highly sought-after guest, author and blogger.

Dr. Levkoff got off to an early start in sex ed, reportedly becoming the nation’s first college newspaper sex columnist. She has a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality, Marriage and Family Life Education from New York University and an M.S. in Human Sexuality Education, as well as an undergraduate degree in English, from the University of Pennsylvania.

Dr. Levkoff is the author of Third Base Ain’t What it Used to Be: What Your Kids are Learning About Sex Today and How to Teach Them to Become Sexually Healthy Adults and How to Get Your Wife to Have Sex with You.

According to Dr. Levkoff, “Sexuality is a natural part of who we are. We are all sexual beings, although we express our sexuality differently as we grow up. Our sexuality includes our sense of gender, our body image, our sexual orientation, our sexual behaviors, our emotions and the roles we play in relationships. It is much bigger than what we do and who we do it with.”

Currently living in New York City with her husband and two children, Dr. Levkoff is a spokesperson for Trojan and Sealy’s “Whatever You Do in Bed…” campaign, also serving on Trojan’s Sexual Health Advisory Council.

Logan Levkoff Tweet

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5 Movies Guaranteed to Raise Your Bedroom Temp

Nothing puts people in a saucy, sexy mood like watching movie stars hook up. There’s something (or, rather, someone) for everyone!

Hot scenes (Maria Bello’s cheerleader nostalgia in “A History of Violence,” William Hurt passionate door-smashing in “Body Heat”) can really dial up the temperature between you and your partner.

Pop in one of these spicy, sexy gems and your night is off to a great start. Add some Zestra arousal oil to the mix and you’ll experience a great finish, too.

1.”Lust, Caution”

Lust Caution poster

“Lust, Caution” features acrobatic, extensive sex scenes… and a lot of them.

2. “Last Tango in Paris”

Last Tango in Paris poster

Most people have heard rumblings of the “butter scene” – it’s pretty amazing and will give you a new perspective on your favorite popcorn topper.

3. “The Dreamers”

The Dreamers poster

American expatriate hooks up with a pair of adventurous and amorous Italian siblings and BOOM! Sexy time.

4. “A History of Violence”

A History of Violence poster

“A History of Violence” offers visceral (yet meaningful) sex scenes between Viggo Mortenson and Maria Bello, two incredibly good-looking people who have very good-looking intercourse.

5. “Body Heat”

Body Heat poster

Kathleen Turner teases William Hurt to distraction before he demands satisfaction! And that satisfaction takes the form of explosive, mind-blowing, mutually pleasing sex.

Bonus: For a laugh, try “Showgirls”! Experience the most ridiculous sex on film and film on sex!

Showgirls poster

The results of last week’s Facebook polls

Question: The movie my love life most resembles is…
A.) Fear & Loathing in Las Vegas 22%
B.) Crazy, Stupid, Love 11%
C.) Fear & Loathing in Las Vegas 22%
D.) There’s Something About Mary 11%
C.) High Fidelity 11%
D.) Happy Endings 11%

Check out our Facebook page to vote on this week’s poll: “My ugly crush is ____________________.”

The most interesting answers will be published next week!

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